People often ask:
- for the death of a very young person;
- perhaps for a person who made errors of judgment in life;
- for someone who lived life with a high media profile;
- for a challenging personal lifestyle. . .
These are all situations in which a ‘normal’ eulogy may not be enough. Or, the person who would usually write the eulogy may not want to write it for some reason, or cannot.
Other special circumstances include overseas eulogies; living eulogies; and official statements – perhaps from an organisation.
If you have a quick look at the eulogy pricing page, you’ll see that only two of my services have fixed prices.
Everything’s so personalised in the other services, it depends on what I’m doing for you. The ‘polish’ of a Eulogy Helper service costs £330 inc.VAT; whereas Eulogy Abroad (travel and face to face meetings overseas), naturally costs more.
Yes. A funeral or ceremony can bring a person’s life into focus in unusual ways.
Every situation is unique. There may be questions I haven’t answered here. Ask me, pop an email over if there’s anything you’d like to know. There’s no pressure from me to ‘buy a eulogy!’ – I’d just like to help.
You know what? It’s okay to cry. But if you’re worried those tears will prevent you from reading the eulogy well, well, How-do-I-stop-crying will help.
It’s a one-page PDF, that explains how to handle the tears.
Yes. Definitely. Some eulogies are like a biography, working through a person’s life in order. Others concentrate on a personal story or an anecdote that evokes the most vivid memories of a person.
I can help. Tell me the story, over the phone or in your own words. I’ll take it from there and polish the writing so that it’s easier to read and ‘sits well’ in context with the rest of the ceremony or service.
General questions about eulogies
A eulogy is a short speech that’s given at a funeral or memorial service.
Giving a eulogy is a very special way to honour someone’s life. It can also be a very comforting thing for everyone to hear.
There’s no hard and fast rule, but there are some sensible guidelines.
I usually write somewhere between 600 and 1200 words for you, which takes between four to nine minutes to deliver. That’s quite a range.
‘Fast’ talkers speak at about 175 words per minute. ‘Average’ talkers, about 150 words per minute – but you don’t want to rush.
” – but what if I only have four minutes, what if I cry?”
Tell me, I’ll write to a timeframe. Everyone understands you may need a moment or two to compose yourself. If you’re finding it very hard, the celebrant or the hosting the ceremony will step in to help you.
(You may find it easier to ask someone you know to take over if things get a bit much. That’s okay too.)
There’s no right or wrong when it comes to what you should put into a eulogy. Some people prefer to think about things in order, to talk about the person’s family and career. Other people want to mark the occasion by reading a piece of poetry or sharing some specific memories. For many families, this is a time to share a few personal insights that will provide a warm and comforting memory of the person’s life.
Every eulogy I prepare is written with humility and respect. I can help you to celebrate a person’s weaknesses as well as their strengths, and to share those personal, little truths too.
I don’t mind if you don’t use my services. If you feel more comfortable writing a eulogy yourself, my FAQs and free resources may be useful. I’ll be thinking of you and hope you find the right words for your situation.
Of course. Some eulogies are simply that: a few lines of a well known and appropriate piece of poetry.
Poetry can be so powerful, and ‘verses’ can also make it easier for you to actually deliver a speech. If you’d like to commission a piece of original poetry, I’m sure that would be okay too.
However, if there’s a well-known poem you’d like us to use, perhaps because it’s a favourite of yours or it just ‘feels right’, then please do ask.
I tell the truth: yes, it can be very difficult. But I’ll send you a set of personalised speaker notes that will help you deliver the eulogy even if you’ve never spoken in public before – and I’ll help, if you’d like me to.
Questions about Uniqueulogy
A Uniqueulogy is a eulogy that’s written by me. I offer my expertise as writers, to help bring personal memories gently to life in a way that makes it easier to deliver the speech on the day. Many people use my service because they’re just not sure what to say, or they’ve written something – but it sounds a bit flat. Whatever your circumstances are, if you feel a little lost for words at the moment – I’ll do my best to help.
No, never. Never, ever, ever.
Every eulogy I write is unique. I use your writing and your thoughts to make sure my words echo your style – that’s why I insist on, at the very least, answers to a questionnaire or a sketched first draft from you.
Depending on your thoughts and ideas, I may suggest some well-known poetry or an appropriate quote – but the content of the eulogy will be unique to you and the person you’re remembering. I promise.
Tell me what to change when I send you the first draft. It’s not a problem. If I finish the eulogy and you’re still not happy, then, of course, I’ll give you a full refund. (It hasn’t happened yet.)
However, it would be very rude to use my work – or any part of it – if that happened.
Gosh, someone wouldn’t commission a professional eulogy-writer and then say they weren’t going to pay for the eulogy but then use the speech anyway – would they?
You’d be horrified if I told you how many people took advantage of a pay-afterwards service … and then never paid. I know this is a difficult time, but I do ask for payment upfront – please.
I’m here to help you. When you commission a eulogy I’ll send you a memory plan or a questionnaire that should help.
If you’re really not sure what to write though, or you’re really struggling because this is a very difficult situation, let me know. I have some ideas.
I’m providing a service. As far as I know, I’m the only person offering this wide range of services in the UK.
When you commission a Uniqueulogy, I want to capture the memories of a person’s whole life. The eulogy will be remembered for a long time. It can be printed and shared, giving everyone a heartfelt, constant reminder of a person. And it will be written in a way that gives you the confidence to deliver it – not always an easy task.
And yes, I know, the word ‘talent’ makes people feel uncomfortable when the subject is so sensitive. But this type of writing does take time and experience, and real consideration. So I try to make sure my work is as enduring as the memory of the person whose life you’re celebrating – and yes, I believe that work has a value.
Of course! My main phone number is 01600 730370.
However, please don’t feel obliged to phone if you’re finding it hard to talk about things – or if you’re simply researching my services. I’m always around to answer questions by email.
(**I’ve had some coverage in the press recently, so I’ve put an answerphone service onto my main phone line. If it pops straight through to voicemail, I’ll call you back as soon as possible.)
Do I charge you to download them or copy them? No.
If you’d like to try writing the eulogy yourself and want some ideas then the free eulogy resources are all there for you to use, free of charge. I’ll be thinking of you and hope you find the right words for your situation.
However – if you do find anything useful, you’ll see there are ‘thanks, here’s a coffee’ buttons at the bottom of resources page. Even a few pennies helps me to keep that part of my service free, which helps other people, just the way I’ve (hopefully) helped you.
Usually, I get in touch within a few hours of receiving your payment. You should have your Uniqueulogy between 24 hours and 3 days later, depending on how I’m helping you and what it is you need.
If I’m travelling with you, to you, or if you’ve asked us to arrange something special then the arrangements will be agreed in advance.
I can also arrange things much faster if that’s what’s needed. Talk to me if you’re at all concerned about timings. I’m here to help.
Maybe not. Being in control of the service that commemorates your own life can be empowering.
What’s more, it can provide great comfort to your family and friends: hearing your words, knowing how much you cared. And –
– sometimes there are reasons why you might want to write a eulogy now and talk about what’s going to be said with the people who’ll be there, then. Every situation is different. If it’s something you’d like to know more about, I’m happy to talk it through. Drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org – and let’s take it from there.