Some circumstances are more sensitive than others. And some families want or need to mark an occasion in a particular way. . .
- if you have media pressures or special circumstances ~ I offer a professional, personal and discreet eulogy-writing service;
- if there’s something you’re finding hard ~ helping children who’d like to speak perhaps, or handling a sensitive situation concerning the life of the person who has died;
- if you’d prefer a very personal, concierge service ~ a more hands-on approach, meeting in person to talk things through;
- if you’d like me to create something very special ~ there are many options we can explore, together.
Anyone can write a eulogy, but not everyone has the experience to handle sensitive situations. You may have a more exclusive and discreet lifestyle, or a media presence, or security concerns. If there’s anything, anything at all you’d like to know, please contact me.
How does a Premium Eulogy work?
- Step 1: When you’re ready, we start with a deposit to secure my services. I use PayPal because it’s easy and safe, and all of my pricing is transparent. The deposit is £500 inc. VAT
- Step 2: We meet ~ or if that’s not possible (perhaps you or your agent are overseas), then we can talk over the phone. Everything about this service is guided by your needs. We meet somewhere that’s neutral, or private, or I can come to your home or to an office if you prefer. This meeting usually lasts about two hours. You’re welcome to bring friends, family, or advisers along.
I’ll ask you about the person’s life and make recommendations as to the structure of the eulogy. It may be very formal; it may benefit from being light-hearted; it may be a life-story that’s restricted to closer, more personal details. Depending on your situation, we may talk about who’ll be at the service; security; or the media. I listen carefully to your ideas.
Understanding the needs of media-sensitive issues; working with funeral directors and celebrants; coaching; helping children perhaps to write their own words; organising copies of the eulogy to share; meeting with family members. . .
This isn’t about what I think is a good idea, it’s completely about what you want. I am guided by your situation, entirely.
- Step 3: Coming away from that meeting, I’ll write the first draft for you to review. This may involve conversations with friends, family or advisers, or references to other sources of detail.
- Step 4: I’ll pass the eulogy to you for approval. It goes without saying that I’ll make any changes you’d like me to, perhaps where the detail’s not quite right. I work on the text until you’re 100% satisfied and comfortable with the speech.
When you’re ready, we can look at presentation coaching and run through the speech together or – if you prefer – I can deliver the eulogy for you at the service or ceremony.
The Premium Eulogy is for eulogies that are being arranged in the UK. For overseas meetings, please have a look at Eulogy Abroad.
How much does a Premium Eulogy cost?
It is impossible to price this service in advance – but that’s because so much of it depends on what you need from me.
I ask for a deposit, to secure my time. Everything else is personalised and up to you. However, I can talk about pricing when it’s clearer what you’d like me to do. I never hide any of the costs.
As a rough guide, a formal, 4 to 7-minute speech created this way will start from around £1,850 inc. VAT. Much depends on your situation, and the timings of the service are something we’ll talk about at our first meeting (you may prefer two speeches, or to have readings at a second event).
How is this different to a Complete Eulogy?
That’s a great question. The Complete Eulogy doesn’t include face-to-face meetings or as much flexibility for special circumstances.
With a Premium Eulogy, for example, you may not want people to know that you have not written the eulogy yourself.
. . .or there may be unusual circumstances in the life of the person who has died;
. . . or you may be marking the life of someone who was well-known and need to discuss the references or tributes in great detail.
. . . or you might ask me to write something for your children to read and to then spend time with them, talking through what’s involved in giving a eulogy. . .
. . . or you may want to share copies of the eulogy and commission a keepsake, which involves working alongside your service planner;
. . . or you know what? Sometimes I receive notes in preparation for a Premium Eulogy meeting, and I can see that I am not needed. A draft is perfect as it is ~ in which case, I say leave what you’ve written just as it is and I’ll pop the deposit back to you. But if you have any questions, please do drop me an email or give me a call.