In short? I listen to you, to the way you talk or write about the person who has died. My words sound as though you wrote them ~ and I write eulogies for special situations.
Too often, I speak to people who are feeling pushed into what they 'should' say or do when a person dies. Or to people who don't know that it is up to you, what happens to mark this moment in time.
I talk about death and dying in a normal way
I also help you to find the words you need, particularly when there are special circumstances; something sensitive perhaps, or with a media or high profile aspect to the situation.
I write the same way you do ~ like a normal person
This is what I do: I'm a tone of voice specialist. This means I consider your words, first, before creating a speech for you. I help to bring your memories to life, and I write the eulogy in a style that people will recognise as being 'yours'. I can also write in other styles too - but your voice is what they'll hear.
I have over 25 years' experience
You can find out more about me and my background on this page, but in short, I've been a professional writer and language specialist for over 25 years. I have the laughter lines and wrinkles to prove it.
I'm a normal person. I've learned that the 'small truths' of what we want to say aren't what we always write. Actually, it takes skill to do that and I'm not ashamed of saying that I've learned my trade well.
And I promise, every eulogy I write is a one-off.
Some writers have a standard format for their eulogies but I never use template. Ever. I will not 'churn out' pieces of writing.
Instead, I'll try to get a sense of who this person was and which words will offer most comfort. Of who you are, and how you'd like to remember this person. I want you to feel it's okay to say, "I can write, I'm used to writing all of the time, but these words are so important I'd really like some help."
I try to be understanding, gentle, and death positive at all times. It is all right to talk about what's happening and to be honest about death and the end of life. As a result, I am sure I can help you find the right words when words are really hard to find.
So, why choose me? Why choose Merryn Henderson?
If you want to remember the person who has died with a eulogy you can be proud of, you can be confident I'll help you,
with words that sound as though you wrote them.